Bridal showers are still relatively new to the UK. Less common even than the baby shower, they rarely occur in families unless it is as an alternative to a hen do (bachelorette). One instance where the bridal shower is definitely a good idea is when it comes to a work colleague. You might all be good friends outside of the office, but there’s no guarantee that everyone will get a hen party invite or even an invite to the wedding. After all, weddings are expensive, and every extra person adds to this. If you want to give your work bestie an amazing send off into the married world, then a bridal shower is the way to go. You can give gifts, celebrate, and discuss the upcoming nuptials. Your co-worker is sure to love it, and it gives everyone in the office the chance to congratulate her.
Tradition
Bridal showers are actually a much older
tradition than you might think. Dating from Victorian times, gifts were
generally presented in a lady’s parasol, which is where the idea of ‘showering’
the bride-to-be comes from. It could be argued that this type of celebration is
even older, with women who didn’t have a dowry being given gifts by friends,
family, and neighbours to help her set up her new home. Nowadays, we mostly associate
the bridal shower with our friends in the US, although in fact there are many
countries who have this tradition. It is generally either the Maid of Honour,
or the bride’s family that hosts a bridal shower, although brides can have more
than one, with different groups of people, including one for work friends.
Are Men Allowed?
Usually, it’s only the girls than get
involved in a bridal shower, but when it comes to organising something for a work
colleague, who’s to say that the men have to be left out? It’s something that
you should discuss with the bride if she knows you’re organising it, as well as
with the men you work with. Some might want the opportunity to celebrate with
the bride-to-be and give their own gifts.
Gifts
The whole point of a bridal shower was
traditionally to give gifts to the bride. When it’s a work colleague, you’ll
have to decide what you are doing as a group. Perhaps everyone will go in
together to buy a big-ticket item from the gift registry, or each buy your own
individual gifts for her. A cash gift has become more and more common – this can
go towards the happy couple’s honeymoon It is particularly appropriate when the
couple already lives together and don’t need any of the traditional household
items usually bought.
Venue
The venue you choose will decide the whole
feel of the bridal shower. Of course, you can have it in the office, but it
might be nice to hire a space away from work to really allow the bride to relax.
There are loads of reasonably priced bridal shower venues for hire in London,
so you’re sure to find one that doesn’t break the bank. It means that you can
have it after work or on a Saturday instead of squeezing it into a lunch break
or limiting the number of people that can actually attend. You can even go somewhere
that does afternoon tea for a relaxed vibe that’s fully catered for.
Décor
Decoration for a bridal shower can be as much
or as little as you desire. Think about what type of person the bride is and
stick to that. For example, a floral theme or completely pink might be exactly
what she’ll love, but others would want a more subdued look. Think about who
the party is for, not just what you’d like. A major décor centrepiece can be a
cake or cupcake stand. Adding this to your venue is always a great addition and
your bride is sure to love it. Depending on your venue, you might be allowed as
many decorations as you like, or they might ask you to keep it to a minimum.
Make sure that you check with them before sticking anything to the walls!
Food
Whether you go for a cake of not, having some
form of food at the shower is a must. Consider the time of day that you’re
having it at and research into reliable catering companies in the area. You don’t
need to have a sit-down meal, but some form of buffet will keep hungry guests happy.
Unlike a hen do, a bridal shower is a bit more subdued. While alcohol is
perfectly acceptable, it’s not going to be a major focus of the event. Think
mimosas or a glass of wine.
Games
Games aren’t a must either, but a sometimes
a good idea if you want to break the tension and get everyone relaxed. They
should be light-hearted and fun like Mr and Mrs. It’s also a great excuse to ‘shower’
the bride with even more surprise gifts but also to give gifts to the winners
of other games. This is a particularly good idea if your colleague is someone
who doesn’t like to be constantly the centre of attention.
Having a bridal shower as a send-off to a
favourite colleague is a great way for everyone you work with to get together
and celebrate the upcoming nuptials. Whether the bride-to-be knows about the
party of not, she’s sure to be grateful that she has such good work friends
around her. Everyone will appreciate you throwing a party in her honour and an
opportunity to give her gifts for her new married life.
Traditionally the mother of the bride or the maid of honour will organise the bridal shower. But if the bride’s family aren’t local and she’d like to have a London shower as well as one in her hometown, the job might be up to you. Check in with the maid of honour first as she’s the most likely to know what’s on the plan, and you don’t want to tread on her toes. Having multiple showers can help the bride enjoy her engagement period as much as possible, especially if her friends and family are widespread and can’t all come to the same event.
Depending on the scope of the event, venues will likely offer different options or packages to suit your needs. Top venues will be all-inclusive and should cover things like catering and drinks. If you hire a private space you’ll be able to decorate the venue as well and bring games to play. Some venues may have preferred suppliers for decorations, so make sure they’ll be able to provide the photobooth, flower arch or whatever the bride-to-be has her heart set on
Wedding budgets were traditionally covered by the bride’s family, but that isn’t necessarily the case anymore. If the shower is a surprise, it may be expected that the organiser will be footing the bill. So if it’s your job, you might want to check in with the groom (don’t ruin the surprise by asking the bride!) to confirm whether there are funds allocated in their wedding budget for the shower before expecting the couple to cover it. Depending on the event, the guests may be expected to pay for their own drinks and food so its always good to discuss options with them as well if it looks like it might be expensive.
When we think of bridal showers, we often picture high tea in a beautiful setting and everyone is wearing a dress – but that doesn’t have to be the case! At the end of the day, the bride will want everyone to be comfortable, and if it’s a less formal affair your best jeans will be absolutely fine. If you’re in doubt, check with the organiser who may have other suggestions if jeans aren’t suitable.
Speaking to the other guests should give a good idea whether or not you’ll be expected to bring a gift, but it’s always safe to assume “yes” if you’re not sure. Have a little think about practicality – will she be coming by public transport to her London bridal shower venue? If so, you might want to give her something small, like a gift card. Ask some of the other guests if they’d like to club together to make your money go further and get her something special like a spa day or a nice lunch. If you’re not very familiar with the bride, a beautiful bunch of flowers or bottle of wine always goes down well!